I feel like my life is falling apart. Everything is spiraling out of control. Nothing is going the way I want. I don't even know what I'm doing anymore. I wish I didn't have to feel anything right now. My life just sucks.
Does your life really suck or are you only focusing on the negative? Everyone has failed a test. Everyone gets broken up with. Everyone has had someone special in their life pass away. These not-so-awesome things are all a part of life. We must learn and grow from the hardships we face rather than remain stuck in a rut.
Keep those negative thoughts out of your head! Here's a brief but handy happiness guide. Bookmark this page; it'll be useful on those unpleasant days.
Shift your focus- You can't focus on the bad, because it will consume you. Life is what you make of it. Life is what you see. If all you see is your tornado of sadness, you'll find yourself perpetually unhappy. Don't spend your days somber. There is beauty in the every day, you just have to open your eyes.
Count your blessings- The fact that you woke up this morning is a plus. Were you in a bed? Some people don't have a nice, comfy bed to sleep in. Was there a roof over your head? Did you eat anything today? Did you use your fancy phone, swanky computer, or rad music player at any point? Many people don't have access to such loot. Did you see or talk to a friend? These little things are often forgotten, but how are they unimportant?
Learn from the bad stuff- So you didn't do very well on that test last week. It's been depressing you terribly. It's all you can talk about for four days straight. Do yourself and others a favor and stop it! Ask yourself: what is the lesson to be learned from this experience? You failed the test, but you figured out that you need to dedicate more hours to studying. Maybe next time you'll form a study group or visit the professor's office hours. There is always a moral to every story.
Make a happy list- Write down all the good things or simple pleasures that happened today. On most days, the positives should outweigh the negatives. Create a list and see for yourself just how fabulous your life really is. It's not lame. Try it out! Here's mine:
Positive things that happened to me today:
- I woke up in my nice, warm tangled mess of blankets.
- I watched several ultra hilarious episodes of "That 70's Show."
- The sun is shining and the weather is sweet.
- My hair looks really good.
- I ate so much delicious food (vegan pizza with red bell pepper, broccoli & mushrooms, ginger snaps, & dark chocolate covered espresso beans).
- I had not one, but two, cups of scrumptious tea.
- I did all my laundry for free!
- I spent the day with various important people in my life.