Advice for Teenagers: From Those of Us Who Aren't Teens Anymore

Being a teenager can be some of the best, happiest, most carefree years of your life. Or it could be some of the most self-deprecating, rough, awful years of your life. Teens face a number of issues & those of us who aren't teenagers anymore may have a difficult time remembering it. Orrr...it may have been so scarring that you remember it quite vividly. Alcohol & drug use, depression, eating disorders, pregnancy, school violence, & suicide are just a few of the risk behaviors teens face daily.

If I can help you out with a few words of wisdom, I shall try my best. You may not listen (heck, I might not have at your age either), but at least I'm attempting to shed a ray of light on the problems you face each day.

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1. Stay true to you - Always stay true to you. Be you. Just be you. Don't alter yourself in any way in order to fit in. Don't wear a certain trend because everyone else looks super cool in it. Wear it because you want to. Wear, do, say, be whatever you want! Be expressive.

2. Think for yourself - A lot of people talk, but not everyone thinks. Think! Use your brain. Think for yourself. Don't let yourself become a mold of what someone else thinks or believes. If you're agnostic but your parents are religious, learn more & figure things out for yourself.

3. Work hard - If you want something too soon & too fast you end up with nothing. Copying your biology homework seems simple. But when you get a D on the chapter test, you'll wish you tried a tad bit harder. And when you get C- in the class, you wish you hadn't lagged so hard & gotten too far behind. It doesn't just pertain to school. Work hard at your job. Work hard at home. Work hard on your friendships.




4. Strive for your dreams - The second you stop trying is the second you'll never reach your goals. If you keep working, fighting, attempting, you can go far. Whether you want to be a mechanical engineer or a ballet dancer, always strive for your dreams. If you give up, you let another person take your place.

5. No glove, no love - Wear a condom! Use protection! Seems logical, right? Your sex ed teachers said it from day one. However, teens often act impulsively. Don't let the heat of the moment get to you. Unless you're in a trusting, committed relationship, always protect yourself. You may catch an itch you just can't scratch! Gross, I know, but that's reality.

6. It's okay to be confused - You have a lot going on. Hours of homework. Practicing for your license. Applying to colleges. Dealing with parents. Maintaining a social life. You don't have to have it all figured out right now, just keep your eyes, ears, & heart open.

7. Be good - The definition of good ranges from "morally excellent; virtuous" to "high quality; excellent" to "right; proper; fit" to "well-behaved." I prefer synonyms to definitions. Be rad. Be pleasing. Be nice. Be positive. These are all synonyms for good by the way. Just be a good human being. Don't go stealing someone's iPhone while they're not looking. Don't be outwardly rude & mean to your peers. You're not Jesus or the Dalai Lama. Just be decent.

What's something you wish you could tell your teenage self or your past self? :]

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  1. Aww I love this, teenage me was a confused, vulnerable girl, just like almost every other teenage girl. I wish I could go back and shake some sense into her, show her she is amazing and make sure she knows everything will be ok.

    Lovely post Carmen :)

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    1. Teenage me was confused & vulnerable as well likely because I didn't have any confidence in myself. :]

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  2. I wish I could tell my teenage self to "try new things" and explore different interests. I have no clue what I want to do with my life - even at 20 - and I wish I'd spent some of my youth creating the building blocks to a possible career, ya know? Also, I'd tell my teenage self "Ovaries before Brovaries", because I was wayyyy too boy crazy for my own good. Friends, waffles, work! :)

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    1. Haha, someone likes Parks & Rec, I see! But I can understand about "try new things." If you get stuck in a rut, how will you know how huge the world is? :]

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  3. This was great!

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  4. Love this post so much! My teenage years were such a long time ago but I completely agree with this post! I think people at the age are too caught up with trying to conquer the world at such a young age worrying about being popular, trying to fit in and what not but they failed to recognize that they have their whole lives ahead of them! Thanks for sharing this!

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    1. True, teens are having to think so far into the future now that they don't stop to figure out their current life & situation. :]

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  5. That post is soooo important! My teenage years were the worst... but no one really told me stuff I needed to hear at that time. :/ There should be more posts like this.
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    1. Sometimes we have to learn the hard way to truly understand. :]

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  6. As I move to a new chapter in my life I now realize how many people have given me this exact advice, and while sometimes it was followed, other times it was a real learning experience, but I love what you are doing here because this is probably the best advice you can give to a teenager. Great piece!

    x Navia

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    1. Right?! I'm sure I received all this advice but didn't understand its importance until it happened. :p

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  7. Great advice , I had rough teenage years and after reading this post , If I could have told my 15 year old self any one of the pieces of the advice that you have written about it would be to stay true to you and not to care about what anyone else thinks of you. I think learning to stay true to you in your youth is especially smart as many successful artists , and business people would not be in the position that they are in now if they fit into one mold.

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    1. Very true! As a teen though, we are very vulnerable to what people think; it's only until later that we realize we should've just been ourselves. :]

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  8. These are great tips! Thanks for sharing!
    Melanie @ meandmr.com

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  9. I second the "Work Hard" comment. I don't know how many people I've met who wish they had tried a little harder in school.

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    1. Totally, but at the same time there's a fine line between not working hard & then working way too hard (that you don't get to enjoy life.) :]

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  10. This is really great advice, trying to live by it! :)
    - Grace xx
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  11. Not a teen anymore, but you are so right! I wished I knew this when I was in my teens. I have been looking way to much for what other people were doing!
    WritingMonique

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    1. At least the lesson is learned & we can hopefully pass the information onto others. :]

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  12. P.S Please take a look at my blog http://craftymama.me x

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  13. I'm still a teenager and this is so true! I'm lucky that I realized this at young age, but even though, I think it affects me, it's great to have the motivation and advice! Thanks!

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    1. Well, enjoy those teen years while you can. :]

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  14. I love this tips! For someone who is leaving her teenagers years I can say that I agree with all of them! Wish I could have told my younger self this! haha
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    Pili

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    1. But would your younger self listen? That's what I ask myself. :p

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  15. Advice not only for teenagers, some are to be repeated for every age!! :)

    Rosa
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    1. Very true, especially if you didn't learn it as a teen. :]

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  16. My advice would be: have a dream. Before action, you need a dream to follow. And then, indeed, strive for your dream.

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    1. Absolutely. Half the struggle is finding a passion! :]

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    2. And when you find it, it may be an expensive one. ;-)

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  17. I love this idea! Some great tips, agree with those that say 'work hard' it does pay off! :) Rebecca | www.rebeccamariee.blogspot.com xx

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    1. Half assing never did anyone any good. :]

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  18. Aghhh so useful, so true! It is so sweet of you to share this, it can be a confusing time but most importantly, it ends! I enjoyed being a teen but I love wayyy more being in my 20s!

    Love,
    Whit

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    1. I'm enjoying my 20s significantly more as well. Phew. :]

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  19. Carmen, your advise are really spot on. Every teen should follow this and thy'll have a good foundation in life.
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    1. You're welcome & thanks for visiting, Jo. :]

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  20. Great advice, a fantastic post ! I would say to myself not to care too much about what the others say, cause when you are a teen you end up for allowing the others to bring you down easily !

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    1. Oh yes! Even in my 20s I've allowed other people's opinion to affect me! :P

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  21. I love this post! My teenage years were really hard especially when I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and I just became a mess to the point that people are making fun of me behind my back but I still miss being a teenager because that means still being a student and I miss that. It's stressful but I'd rather go to school than go to work TBH. Hahaha more vacations. xx

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    1. Teens & kids can be cruel because they haven't learned the art of acceptance -- both for others & themselves. I miss being a student too. :]

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  22. Great advice! My issue was not thinking for myself as constantly trying to be like other people and confirming I was just losing myself! Ao I definitely would have told my teenage self to have had my own brain and not to have conformed! Xxx

    Anisha ♥ All You Need Is Red Lipstick

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    1. Precisely. I spent a lot of time going with the flow rather than exploring & understanding myself. :]

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  23. I wish I could tell my teen self to work hard! I messed around during the end years of high school and then had to change my entire career plan and it put me off for a while. Such good advice!
    Mary-Ann xx
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    1. Sometimes we have to learn the hard way. >.<

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  24. Great post! My teen years were definitely tough, or least by the standards of developed western nations.

    Allie of ALLIENYC
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    1. Haha, excellent point. We definitely have a different realm of issues. :p

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  25. Nice tips, very useful for me since I'm still in my teen years. Number 1 and 3 are my favourite. My advice to my younger self and older self is to keep God first, work hard and avoid procrastination.

    Princess Audu

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  26. Love this! I would just add find a way to keep yourself motivation, because that is something I've been struggling with. But all your tips are true!

    Building The Confidence

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  27. I remember when I was a teenager my biggest problem was that I tried too much to "fit in", instead of doing things that I enjoyed. Now that I'm in my late twenties, I realize how stupid that was!

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  28. This is so true. One thing I found I should have told myself then and am now reminding myself is that "this too shall pass". Today's problems will be tomorrows jokes. You will get through everything because you are strong. Everyone goes through something that seems it will never go away!

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