Friends make the world go round. Friends are the people who know your deepest, darkest secrets, most embarrassing moments, seen you at your worst & they still continue to associate with you. Friends are the family that you choose. It's pretty difficult when you lose some of your friends & most of the time this can be due to growing apart, toxic friends or death. I'm sure there's a million other reasons why we lose friends, but these are the three that I've come across often. Hopefully these words can help you when you feel like you're starting to lose your friends. :]
Growing apartAging, moving, & having different hobbies is a part of life & it's nothing to be ashamed or sad about. Be it in preschool, high school, college or wherever you meet people, you spend a lot of time with them & become really close. Eventually the situation isn't the same & you can't spend the same amount of time with them or things just aren't how they used to be.
When I moved back to San Diego after going to university in Orange County, I lost many friends after a couple years. We lost contact save for the occasional Facebook like. Just remember that some of them will grow apart but some will grow even closer. And that's okay.
Toxic friendsThe next friend we tend to lose is the toxic or negative friend. This is the friend who makes you feel bad about yourself, makes you do things you normally wouldn't do or regret, gets you into trouble, & all-around isn't good for you. It may be hard to let them go but you need to do it for yourself.
Would let your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, etc. treat you like crap? Why would you let your 'friend?' Remember friends are the ones who know you at your worst times & try to help you, they don't stomp you down when you're on the ground. Let them go.
DeathNow death is a very difficult way to lose a friend because there's a lasting pain in your heart, much like a splinter that you can't get out. It's perfectly acceptable to be hurt & it's okay to be sad, but don't let it eat away at you. Remember the good times you had -- the memories, the photos that you can look back on, the songs that remind you of them, their favorite cologne or the way they laugh.
Do you think your friend would want you to live in a constant state of sadness & mourning? Doubtful! Enjoy & live the life that they couldn't. Tell their story. Take solace knowing that the reason why they left so soon is because their duties on earth have been fulfilled. You may not know it but one day you'll realize & it'll make so much sense.
It'll be okay in the long run. Remember those friends who've stuck by you through thick & thin. Those are the only friends you need. Some friends you see all the time. Some friends you see every few years. Some friends you talk to daily. Some friends you can pick up where you left off, even if it's been months or years. Sometimes you only need to have one genuine friend. Have you ever lost a friend? Which one of these scenarios most applies to you? How did you deal with it? :]