The Real Reason I Quit My 9 to 5 Corporate Job

It was burned into my brain to go to university, get my degree, build my career, find a steady job that brings a good income & health insurance. Once I achieved all those things I looked back & thought: "For what?" 

"What is this all for? What is the point?" 

I did what I'm supposed to do. I did what society said. It felt like I was checking off someone else's to do list & I was merely surviving. I lived day by day. The alarm on my phone buzzed annoyingly every morning. I begrudgingly went to work all day. I came home in the afternoon dead tired. I blogged for as long as possible. Then I went to sleep to repeat that whole process.

I've been in the social media work force for four years. I can't recall the exact moment of my revelation, but at some point it clicked: I realized that every day I went into work, I was building someone else's company, dream, goal, vision. 

I worked every day to improve social media engagement. I sourced photos & created captions that audiences would relate to. I built authentic connections. I recognized engaged users. I spoke with them nearly every day. 

I sent in all my achievements & metrics. They usually compiled a year-end recap to send up the corporate chain. My numbers were so outstanding, increasing engagement & reach by 200% — the analytics don't lie — that I was told it made the company look bad because they weren't doing social media prior to my arrival. The numbers were never noted nor discussed again.

I finally had to ask myself: "What the hell am I doing with my life?"

I realized that I was merely aging at each of these jobs, not advancing or learning or growing. I've been working on my blog since 2011. I started my blogging + social media coaching in January 2017. I wanted to blog more, write more, create more, & make it my career. I was ready to pursue my own path.

At some point, I was invited to go to a television show premier in Los Angeles, but it was on a Tuesday afternoon. I'd have to take the day off from work or at least leave early. The problem was that I'd called out sick the week before, so it would look sketchy to do it two weeks in a row. I couldn't make it happen. I was bummed.

Then I was invited to do a media stay in Nevada. I had just gotten back from Paris, so I couldn't take a week off to go on this trip. I was fresh out of vacation days. But I couldn't let this opportunity go. Not this time. It could help me move forward in the pursuit of my own business & career. 

You want to know the real reason I quit my job? I was getting more opportunities, coaching queries, collaborations, sponsored posts, that it was getting to the point where I could no longer work full-time & blog. Something had to give. I made the decision to quit my job.

I realize that my life path might be unconventional for some. There's not necessarily a sense of security. Income fluctuates from month-to-month. I'm fully in charge of growing a business with only myself to be held accountable. But it was absolutely vital to pursue my own path, despite what anyone else had to say.

The thing is, I'm the one who has to live my life & take ownership of it. Nobody else. After months of feeling unhappy at my job, I decided to take a leap, scary leap & do my own thing. I made a choice to pursue my own path, regardless of any feedback.

You have to live with your choices. What choice will you make today? Pursue your own path. Not the path your parents laid out. Not the path you thought about 10 years ago but has since changed. Not the path that you despise. Every path is different, focus on your own.

Pursue your own path. Look forward. Don't listen to the noise of others. It's a distraction. Take action.

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  1. "I was building someone else's company, dream, goal, vision." this is exactly how I feel. Well done you!
    Pam xo/ Pam Scalfi♥

  2. "I realized that every day I went into work, I was building someone else's company, dream, goal, vision." - this is a real eye-opener. plus, that comment about your numbers being "too good" and "make the company look bad" was really manipulating and down-grading your work!!!
    thank you for sharing this, carmen.

  3. Love this post! I'm getting to the point where my job is just draining me and I just want to work on my blog enough that I can afford to make the leap! Wishing you all the best with your journey x

  4. This is so inspiring!! I'm a fellow 'I quit my 9-5 to follow my dreams' girl and it's so incredibly liberating isn't it!? Totally agree with your point about working for another company is building someone else's dreams and not your own - I'm totally with you and hope you really make it on your journey! Lots of love, Imogen xx

  5. I'm so glad you made the choice that you did. Now you're working for yourself, building your own dream. :)

  6. What a great post! I personally love my job, it's my passion, but the allure of working for yourself and making your own hours is a dream as well. Love that you're doing what makes you happiest!

  7. Carmen, you are one amazing woman! I love that you decided to take your talent and work for yourself and build your own business. Across the miles I salute you and send wonderful wishes your way for increased joy, happiness and business success!

  8. I lost my job in March and put my all into my blog. Now I'm faced with having to go back to work full time, and worry I won't have the time or the wherewithal to dedicate to the blog. I'm so happy for you that you are able to make this work, much continued success!

  9. Ilene Blessing ModicaSeptember 15, 2017 at 11:23 AM

    How wonderful that you took the steps to do what you want. I'm not sure how long I'm going to stay blogging as I don't see the success you are achieving - that's for sure. Very inspiring, truly.

  10. I love this and you are so inspiring Carmen, cant wait for our chat on Monday. I so want to quit my burnt out and tis not my passion. Unfortunately we have a lot of debt to crawl out of and having fluctuating income is not best at this point... Hoping to sell the house and pay off debt so I can pursue my passion. Thanks for the inspo!

  11. Amen! And good for you! I can't wait to be able to say I'm my own boss :) THanks for the inspiration!

  12. Great post! I totally agree- you have to follow your own path. We're not all from the same mold, everyone is unique and different in their own way and each person deserves their own road to take.

  13. Good for you! I left a career that was no longer satisfying a few years ago. Then a year later I started my blog. I love it so much that I am working at it being my full-time income.

  14. This is an inspiring post, for sure! Over the years, I thought similarly to you. I was writing for a website doing food posts. I finally thought to myself, "Why am I not doing this for myself?" and my blog was born :) It's a trip, for sure! Good for you!

  15. YAS! I think so many people just age and not grow. It is hard because we are told that if we are lucky enough to have a good paying job we should be happy and while we should be grateful we should also aspire to do fulfilling work.


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