We live in a society where surgery, extreme dieting, & changing our bodies are becoming the norm or at least very prevalent. For some this is the answer to their question, the call to their prayer; that's totally fine. But the issue we face at the end of the day -- with or without makeup, with or without Botox, with or without a body shaper -- is feeling comfortable in our own skin.

Studies show that youth are consistently dissatisfied with their bodies. Adolescent girls want to weigh less while the boys want to be bigger & stronger, according to the National Center for Biotechnology Information (NCBI). Their self-perception is swayed by the media & cultural standards in their search for the perfect body.

Do you feel content with yourself? Your body image? Your personality? Your past? Your goals? Why do you feel that way? Is it because of society & what 'the norm' is? In a world of the perfectly contoured Kardashians, it makes the average woman feel like less. Less glamorous. Less attractive. Less worth. 

Over 50% of teenage girls & one-third of teenage boys use unhealthy behaviors to lose weight such as skipping meals, fasting, & vomiting, according to the National Association of Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders (ANAD). That's an astounding number. But when you walk past your favorite store & see a huge ad of a tall, slender, gorgeous woman with a fully toned stomach, it doesn't seem so shocking.

Put down the magazine. Turn off your computer screen (after you finish reading this, of course). Leave your phone at home. Spend some time without the distractions. Reconnect with yourself. We let someone else dictate how we feel about ourselves. We don't want to be pressured into buying some funky suction cup so our lips look bigger. So why do we let it? That's when the light bulb when off. 

Don't. Don't let it. Don't let someone's comment alter how you feel about yourself. Don't let that really famous & hot teenager who has millions of dollars to buy a glam squad make you feel like you aren't amazing. YOU ARE! You're super cool, smart, beautiful, & talented.  

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As a fashion & San Diego lifestyle blogger, my world is out there in the open. Everyone has an opinion. Someone commented on my Facebook outfit photo "not on fleek." Initially I was slightly taken aback, but all of a sudden I was riddled with a case of the giggles. It was hilarious to me. Someone took time out of their day to tell me my outfit sucked. 

In this particular case, I had enough confidence in myself & my look to brush it off with a smile. However, there are other instances when I don't feel that way. Sometimes when I post a closeup of my face, I'm self-conscious of pimples or scars. I worry about my toenails not being painted or my feet being too white. I fret about the style of my shirt making me look heavier or if my pants make my hips wider.

But feeling comfortable with yourself begins with you; it starts from deep within. If you love yourself wholly, no amount of airbrushed babes will change that. Obviously, that's the hard part. However, as with anything, practice makes progress. Try, try, then try again.

You are wonderful.
You are intelligent.
You are capable.
You are radiant.

I challenge you to spend 10 minutes with yourself & your thoughts today. No books. No magazines. No internet. No friends. Just you. Alone. With your thoughts. You can meditate or go for a casual stroll around the block. Spend some time being a positive role model for yourself. 

My questions to you are: What's an insecurity of yours & what can you do to make that insecurity into a positive? What are 3 of your best qualities/features? Let's spread positivity & confidence. 

Here are my answers:

  • What's an insecurity of yours & what can you do to make that insecurity into a positive? I'm insecure about my two front teeth as they are slightly crooked & overlap a little. I can turn this into a positive because my teeth actually have nothing to do with me or my personality. I literally have no control over it. Plus, J. Cole & Kirsten Dunst don't have perfectly straight teeth & they lead successful & happy lives.
  • What are 3 of your best qualities/features?
      1. My Persian eyebrows are thick so I rarely have to put any effort into them. Glad strong eyebrows are a thing now because I used to get made fun of for them in high school. 
      2. I get along really well with animals & have a bond with pretty much every one I encounter, such as coaxing a normally anti-social cat to sleep at my feet for 3 nights in a row.
      3. I'm smart. I am not a math whiz by any means, but I read a lot & know a lot of pointless & point-full facts. 

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