Why I'm Excited to Travel with My Significant Other / Carmen Varner // Travel Influencer, Blogging Coach, Social Media Consultant


Why I'm Excited to Travel with My Significant Other

I remember sitting on a bench in Paris in 2010, writing a poem about how I desperately wanted to be there with a lover, someone whom I shared my heart with. I always dreamt of traveling the world with a significant other. I pictured holding hands as we explored the city, kissing under the Eiffel Tower, breaking off that first piece of baguette as we washed it down with a glass of red wine.


Traveling with a significant other is a completely different experience compared to traveling with family or friends or solo. 

Chilling with a cat in San Luis Obispo

I've traveled alone. I'll never forget my three-week road trip throughout California, sleeping on friends couches, getting rides whenever I could, doing whatever the hell I wanted whenever I wanted to. I remember waking up on the couch, hoping to see a text from the guy I liked. No such luck. I navigated to the kitchen to try out my friend's roommate's homemade bread. I did some blog work in their San Luis Obispo backyard. I jumped on the trampoline. I walked to downtown San Luis Obispo. After a few days on the lumpy couch, I moved on to my next city.

Me & my sister at an Airbnb in Brussels, Belgium

I've traveled with family. Together we went up the Swiss Alps. I fainted. I opened my eyes & saw my mom's worried face; my family gathered around to help me up off the ground. I remember sampling gouda cheese in Gouda, Netherlands with my sister. We tasted fennel gouda, coconut gouda, pesto gouda, until we couldn't gouda any longer. My dad & I road tripped Route 66, back when there was still smoking & non-smoking sections in the diner.

Me & my college roommate on the Space Needle

I've traveled with friends. One spring break, four of us drove up to San Francisco, then Portland, making our way up to Seattle, Washington. It started pouring rain as we were walking the city. We heard a man's voice inviting us into his tea room. We obliged, warming ourselves with every sip of tea we took. I bought the rose petal tea. We had a fancy dinner on top of the Space Needle. I felt so cool in my dress & heels & my $25 spaghetti or whatever it was.

Fred & I at Sacre Coeur in Paris, France

I've traveled with a significant other. Fred & I have been together for five years now, but it was only in the last couple years that we began dedicating more time to travel. It started by taking smaller trips throughout our area of Southern California: Del Mar, Los Angeles, San Clemente, San Diego. Then found a cheap flight to Portland, Oregon & booked our first flight together.

The rest is history. We drove to Yuma, Arizona on a whim one weekend. We went to Paris, France in the springtime. I'll never forget how it poured rain as we walked up the steps of the Notre Dame. We stared out at the cool, grey fog-ridden city.

I'm delighted to travel with someone I can hold hands with, kiss, embrace, & cuddle up with that night. Someone to take photos with, split the cost with, share memories with, eat an eclair with, reminisce with, get lost with.

It's different than traveling alone, doing whatever I wanted whenever I wanted to on a couch in San Luis Obispo. It's different than traveling with family, bickering, laughing, bonding, having long-winded, emotional family discussions over bread & grapes in Amsterdam's Vondelpark. It's different than laughing until you cry with your roommate in a grungy hotel room on your way to Portland.

eiffel tower

eiffel tower at night

moulin rouge

I want to see the world & I want him to have the chance to see it too. I like the challenges that traveling with a loved one creates. You're out of your comfort zone. You get lost. You have to speak broken French in order to find the restroom. You don't know where you are. You don't know the language, but you work together to conquer it.

Do you enjoy traveling with the significant other? Where did you go & how was it? :]

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  1. I like traveling with friends/family but traveling with my husband is the best! We have yet to go on our honeymoon (we work too much) but have taken small trips and just returned from southern CA. The weather was TERRIBLE the day we were in San Diego but we spent 6 hours walking around the city, soaking wet and cold, enjoying the adventure. It's so much more enjoyable when you are with your love.

  2. Gorgeous! My dream is to be proposed to in Paris!


  3. Traveling with my significant other is my ultimate dream. We haven't really traveled alone it. I hope soon. :)


  4. Hey Carmen. Me and my bf are together for 5 years already and honestly I have not traveled with anyone else ever since. You are right, travelling with your other is the best feeling. So far we've been to London (couple of times), Barcelona, Rome, Florence, visited all the Tuscany in one week,(that was some adventure), Croatia, Spain (few cities with the beach), Romania, Sweden (quite often, we live near by), New York, Miami, Malta (one of my fav) . Hope you travel soon with your hubby to Paris :)

  5. This is so sweet, you two are going to have a wonderful time! I would also love to travel with my significant other, I've never done so before and have always been single while on my travels. These photos are beautiful by the way, I love that hat in the first photo! Do you mind me asking where you bought it, its adorable. Have a wonderful weekend Carmen xx

    Sending light + love your way,
    My Lovelier Days

  6. Aww this is adorable! Travelling for the first time with your boyfriend will be a great experience. You're exactly right, it is nothing like travelling with friends and family. It's so nice to share those experiences with each other.

    I hope that you both have a wonderful time <3


  7. Love this post! I have been to Paris a few times and you're right - going with your other half is a different experience! You should also try to visit Rome some time - very romantic too xx


  8. Paris is absolutely beautiful - for both couples and singles! I'm sure that you're going to have a wonderful time. If you would like any tips please don't hesitate to send me a message on instagram xx


  9. That hat is so cute!!! I love Paris, it's absolutely beautiful :D

    xx Sofia | SOFIAADOT

  10. This is wonderful. What a romantic post! You make Paris sound romantic as well, which I know it is. But you have a way of describing it that makes it even more attractive. Thanks for sharing this!

  11. so exciting! wishing you the best time =)

  12. You'll have the best time! I've been to Paris lots of time, but the first time with my husband last year and it's just magical <3

  13. I've been to Paris both alone and w/ a partner and it's splendid no matter what

  14. How lovely! Have a wonderful trip :)

  15. I would love to go to Paris with my husband! its for sure on our list of places to go!

  16. You always learn so much about each other when you travel, and is always such a fun experience! I hope you both have an amazing trip!

  17. We got back a couple days ago! It was amazing. :]

  18. It took us 2, almost three years to make travel a priority. :]

  19. You guys have done a lot! We're going to London in December. Any must-see sights? :]

  20. Thank you! I took these photos last time I was in Paris. I like the hat too, but it was the back of some random person's head. :P

  21. It was a challenge but so amazing - definitely a learning experience. :]

  22. I agree! It's a wonderful place all around. :]

  23. It WAS magical! What was your favourite part? :]

  24. I had the most fun with my partner - although I haven't been alone! That would be interesting to experience as well. :]

  25. It's so beautiful. Slightly less crowded than it would be in summer with lots of cloudy days! :]

  26. Absolutely. It's safe to say we learned a lot about one another & made a great step in our relationship. :]


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